Stories and Wisdom from a Life Fully Lived

Category: Forgiveness

  • Why? Why? Why?

    Why do so many people from all walks of life—all races, creeds and colors — continue to promote racism? Does ANYONE not know that the mere reference to skin color is racist?

    Why do we often mention “Black owned business” and never “White owned” ones?

    Why do some promote specifically “Black” organizations and not specifically “White” ones?

    Why do Black Lives Matter without mention of ALL lives? Doesn’t anyone else matter?

    If we’re trying to remove racism from our culture; why do we continue to use language that promotes or draws attention to it?

    I believe that ALL LIVES will become equal (as far as skin color goes), when we stop linking our thinking to skin color and instead, focus on contribution, service, skill, producing something of value to all humanity.

  • Live This Day as if It Is Your LAST.

    Live this day and every day as an active participant in the present. Each morning, ask yourself what is REAL and IMPORTANT to you, and then find the courage, wisdom and willpower to live your day around your answer.

    • It’s your choice.
    • YOUR choice!
    • You are choosing right now.

    If you are choosing…

    • to complain,
    • to blame,
    • to be stuck in the past,
    • to act like a victim,
    • to feel insecure,
    • to feel anger,
    • to feel hate,
    • to be naïve,
    • to ignore your intuition,
    • to ignore good advice,
    • to give up,

    then it’s time to choose differently. Do some mental hygiene. Clean up that “stinkin thinkin”! Start “linkin your thinkin” to what you DO want instead of what you DON’T WANT. For example:

    • Choose to be present.
    • Choose to be positive.
    • Choose to forgive yourself.
    • Choose to forgive others.
    • Choose to just LET GO of your stinkin thinkin.
    • Choose to see your value.
    • Choose to see the possibilities.
    • Choose to find meaning.
    • Choose to prove you’re not a victim.
    • ‘Choose to let go of your false beliefs and stories.

    You’re not alone in your life’s journey. We’re all on the same journey. Recognizing that brings some relief to me. I hope it does for you too.

  • Let Go

    to Improve your Relationships and Your Own Peace of Mind

    The most serious problem for any situation; marriage, relationships, businesses, or organizations, are the ones that cannot be discussed openly and honestly, with respect, tolerance, and intelligence.

    Charles Tutt

    All relationships involve issues of control.

    The other person’s approval or disapproval is important within a relationship.

    Each party to the relationship often maneuvers to be in control. This control is fluid in a healthy relationship.

    Let go:

    • Does not mean stop caring. It means I won’t do it for someone else, becuse I want them to learn from the experience.
    • Recognizes that I cannot control another person.
    • Is to recognize the power in another to control his or her life situation and live with the consequences of his or her behavior.
    • Means I will not try to change or blame another.
    • Means I will focus on what I can control, my own behavior.
    • Means I will be supportive.
    • Is not being protective but allowing another to face the reality of life.
    • Does not deny the behavior of another, but accepts it.
    • Means dealing with the present to create a useful future and not clinging to the past.
    • Means fearing less and loving more.
    • Means I will search for my own shortcoming and correct them.
    • Means I have given myself and you permission to make mistakes and be wrong.
    • Means I will not try to adjust everything to fit my desires, but take each moment as it comes.
    • Means growth and living for the future.
    • Is not scolding, arguing, or nagging.
    • Means I will be there for support, advice, and love, but the decisions you make will be your own.
    • Is the realization that words like should, must, ought to, need and demandingness are symptoms of my own feeling.
    • Is the realization that life is a process and that at any moment everything could change.
    • Is knowing the difference between the things I cannot change and those that I can.
    • Is the recognition that people are whole and complete and capable of doing whatever they want to do to get what they want.
    • Is the true expression of unconditional positive regard.

    Inspired by Lloyd Loften. Edited (somewhat) by Charles Tutt

  • Forgiveness

    Forgiveness is just another name for freedom.
    Byron Katie

    Speaker and author Byron Katie regularly encourages us to look inside and ask ourselves the hard questions in order to grow as people. She refers to it as “The Work,” a process that helps us to confront stressful thoughts and feelings and eliminate them from our lives. With anger, in particular, whether it’s directed at ourselves or someone else, we’re held captive by those negative emotions. Until we forgive whatever caused the hurt, we’ll never be free from that negativity. So forgiveness actually becomes a form of self-care, allowing us to move forward unencumbered, to enjoy the freedom and lightness that comes from letting go.