Category: First Principles

  • Why? Why? Why?

    Why do so many people from all walks of life—all races, creeds and colors — continue to promote racism? Does ANYONE not know that the mere reference to skin color is racist?

    Why do we often mention “Black owned business” and never “White owned” ones?

    Why do some promote specifically “Black” organizations and not specifically “White” ones?

    Why do Black Lives Matter without mention of ALL lives? Doesn’t anyone else matter?

    If we’re trying to remove racism from our culture; why do we continue to use language that promotes or draws attention to it?

    I believe that ALL LIVES will become equal (as far as skin color goes), when we stop linking our thinking to skin color and instead, focus on contribution, service, skill, producing something of value to all humanity.

  • When You Can’t Change the Situation

    Change Your Response to It

    I’m not always successful with this approach and you probably won’t be either, but I’ve found it to be a good place to start. Three things to do:

    • Just be where you are. Let the present situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be.
    • Do not regret the kindness and respect you have shown to the wrong people. Your behavior says everything about you, and their behavior says volumes about them. Carry on… with grace.
    • Let go. Don’t overreact. You don’t have to join every fight. Most situations won’t make one iota of difference soon.

    Think. Sit quietly with your situation. Resist the urge to respond in the same old way you always have.

    I like to write about it in my journal, let it rest a couple of days and come back to it. Often mental/emotional space opens up for a new approach.

    While you may not be responsible for your current situation, though often you are, you are responsible for your thinking, feeling, and action responses.

    Which Comes First?

    • Thought / Action—Action / Thought
    • Thought / Feeling—Feeling / Thought
    • Thought / Belief—Belief / Thought

    Almost all “situations” contain thought triggers, or memories real or imagined, which produce a wide range of responses—emotional, physical, behavioral, etc.. Our awareness of these triggers and our habitual responses to them completely dictate the quality of our life… regardless of circumstance.

  • A little Personal Pep Talk to Manage Overreaction

    Maintaining calmness—not overreacting or taking things too personally — keeps your mind clear, your emotions peaceful, and your composure under control in otherwise uncontrollable situations. You’ve experienced this: calm composure is a human superpower. So ask yourself: “How can I respond from a place of clarity and strength today, rather than reacting in anger or frustration to the painful experiences I’m confronted with?”

    Sit with that question for a moment.

    Every time you’re tempted to react in the same old way, pause for a moment of breath meditation—in two, three, four, out two, three, four five—make space for a healthy change of state, for something new to enter…

    Consciously redirect your focus by taking it away from something unchangeable that drags you down, and instead zero in on something small and actionable that moves you forward in the present moment.

    Nothing is stopping you right now. Nothing is holding you back but your own thoughts and reactions to “how life is.”

    You may not be responsible for everything that’s happened to you in the past, or everything that’s happening to you now, but you ARE responsible for undoing the counterproductive thinking and behavioral patterns these circumstances create.

    Think better so you can ultimately live better.

    No matter what happens, you can choose your response, which powerfully influences what happens next. Your greatest weapon against anxiety, negativity, and stress is your ability to pause, breathe, and chose one present response over another—to train your mind to make the best of what’s in front of you.

    Life gets better when you get better at managing your better way of being.

  • Cows do NOT Give Milk

    COWS DON’T GIVE MILK

    A father used to say to his children when they were young: — When you all reach the age of 12 I will tell you the secret of life. One day, when the oldest turned 12, he anxiously asked his father what was the secret of life. The father replied that he was going to tell him, but that he should not reveal it to his brothers.

    —The secret of life is this: The cow does not give milk. “What are you saying?” Asked the boy incredulously. — As you hear it, son: The cow does not give milk, you have to milk it. You have to get up at 4 in the morning, go to the field, walk through the corral full of manure, tie the tail, hobble the legs of the cow, sit on the stool, place the bucket and do the work yourself.

    That is the secret of life. The cow does not give milk. You milk her or you don’t get milk. There is this generation that thinks that cows GIVE milk. That things are automatic and free: their mentality is that if “I wish, I ask….. I obtain.”

    “They have been accustomed to get whatever they want the easy way…But no, life is not a matter of wishing, asking and obtaining. The things that one receives are the effort of what one does. Happiness is the result of effort. Lack of effort creates frustration.”

    So, share with your children from a young age the secret of life, so they don’t grow up with the mentality that the government, their parents, or their cute little faces are going to give them everything they need in life.

    Remember 👇👇

    “Cows don’t give milk; you have to work for it.”

    ~Author Unknown

  • Mental Garden

    From As a Man Thinketh by James Allen

    Man’s mind may be likened to a garden, which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild.

    James Allen

    Act is the blossom of thought; and joy and suffering are its fruits; thus does a man garner in the sweet and bitter fruitage of his own husbandry.

    James Allen

    Self-control is strength; Right Thought is mastery; Calmness is power. Say unto your heart, “Peace. Be still!”

    James Allen
  • Is There a Lesson for us Here?

    The following article is about a study done by https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_B._Calhoun John B. Calhoun. It was published by Farnam Street May 1, 2022. I found it to be quite interesting and relevant to our times in terms of our “social evolution”.

    Insight

    “In July 1968, four pairs of mice were introduced into the habitat. The habitat was a 9-foot square metal pen with 4.5-foot high sides. Each side had four groups of four vertical, wire mesh “tunnels.” The “tunnels” gave access to nesting boxes, food hoppers, and water dispensers. There was no shortage of food or water or nesting material. There were no predators. The only adversity was the limit on space.

    Initially, the population grew rapidly, doubling every 55 days. The population reached 620 by day 315, after which the population growth dropped markedly, doubling only every 145 days. The last surviving birth was on day 600, bringing the total population to a mere 2200 mice, even though the experiment setup allowed for as many as 3840 mice in terms of nesting space. This period between day 315 and day 600 saw a breakdown in social structure and in normal social behavior. Among the aberrations in behavior were the following: expulsion of young before weaning was complete, wounding of young, increase in homosexual behavior, inability of dominant males to maintain the defense of their territory and females, aggressive behavior of females, passivity of non-dominant males with increased attacks on eath other which were not defended against.

    After day 600, the social breakdown continued, and the population declined toward extinction. During this period females ceased to reproduce. Their male counterparts withdrew completely, never engaging in courtship or fighting and only engaging in tasks that were essential to their health. They ate, drank, slept, and groomed themselves—all solitary pursuits. Sleek, healthy coats and an absence of scars characterized these males. They were dubbed “the beautiful ones.” Breeding never resumed and behavior patterns were permanently changed.

    The conclusions drawn from this experiment were that when all available space is taken and all social roles filled, competition and the stresses experienced by the individuals will result in a total breakdown in complex social behaviors, ultimately resulting in the demise of the population.

    —John B. Calhoun

    One of the lessons you can draw from this is that human situations are no different. At our core we are animals. When things are abundant, it’s easy to get along. When times become lean, however, our biological tendency towards self-preservation takes over. Scarcity—real or imagined—triggers our unconscious mind to take over and react without reasoning. And when we react without reasoning, we are no better than other animals. In fact, in these moments, we’re told we are “behaving like an animal.”

    We’ve been living in an era of ever-increasing abundance since WWII.

    Tiny Thought

    One of the biggest things working in the background over the past few years is the mindset gap.

    At the onset of COVID, one group of people, became paralyzed and waited. They waited for someone else to take the lead and tell them what to do. They waited for schools to go online and figure out how to educate their kids. They waited for the government to tell them what was safe and what wasn’t. They waited for clarity. Whey waited for certainty. And they waited for other people to solve problems so they could continue with life.

    Another group of people refused to stop. While they might have slowed down, they kept adapting. Inch by inch they did what they could and moved forward. They hired teachers of turned to Khan academy, or learned to homeschool for their kids. They kept the expectations of themselves and their kids high. They pushed forward at work and home. They solved problems. And they learned new skills.

    The difference between these two groups comes down to mindset.

    All the energy you put into things you can’t control comes at the expense of things you can control. And because they focus on what they can control, the second mindset is far more resilient and adaptable than the first. And that makes all the difference.

    People often bring up the wealth gap. They say things like, “It’s easy for the rich to hire tutors and teachers and childcare and keep their kids working hard.” Yes… and that misses the point.

    It’s easy to overestimate the role of money and underestimate the role of mindset. Often, we convince ourselves that if only we had the resources, we would apply the second mindset. But the second mindset isn’t a luxury of the rich, it is a necessity to build wealth in the first place.

    Focusing on the money misses the leverage of mindset hiding in plain sight.

    A lot of people without a lot of money figured out ways to focus on what they could control. While they didn’t control what the schools did, they did control giving their kids extra work or putting them in Khan academy, or upskilling themselves and homeschooling their children.

    Mindset gets applied to life many times, every day. At the end of a day, one day, the difference between the first and second mindset is indistinguishable, but at the end of a decade, the gap is too large to catch up.

    Everything comes down to mindset.

    When you focus on what you can control, there is always an action you can take to put yourself in a better position. When you focus on things you can’t control, you tend to freeze, unsure of what to do, and you wait while those with a more constructive mindset pass you by.

  • Words That Matter

    and The Wright Right Correct Words Really Matter

    Any word that’s really important is also confusing. Words like trust, love, friend, fair, honest, lead, connect, authentic, justice, dignity–they have dozens of different meanings.

    Perhaps that’s because they’re important.

    It’s worth spending a moment to understand what we mean when we say something that might mean something else. Because the wright right, correct word really matters.

  • Success

    The most important factors for #success are no longer how many hours you work, how much effort you exert, or where you are located. What matters now is what you know, how well you document and organize that knowledge, and your ability to share it with others.

    Personal Knowledge Management has become an essential survival skill for everyone navigating the modern world.

  • Operations

    Repetitive Routines, Habits, Work Flows

    Philosophy is “why”. Yes, I’m always asking that. Strategy is “how”; another one of my favorite thought modes. Tactics are “what”… but Operations, (as in a manufacturing workflow) are more than “who” or “where” or “when”. Tactics are “who”, “what”, “when” and then some. Tactics are an applied deep understanding of philosophy and strategy applied to a situation. Operations Management, Life Management, Business Management all require a coherent “System” of well thought out repeatable processes, habits, rituals, flows, steps, represented by the Management Cycle… Planning, Implementing, Reviewing, analyzing and constantly improving with each cycle.